When we try to take matters in our own hands, rather than submit to God’s authority and give issues back to God, we fall into all kinds of trouble. Sarai and Abram, in Genesis 16, took matters into their own hands when trying to have a family, rather than trust in the plan of God. See where that got them. You don’t have to take the controls away from God in order to have a trusting and loving relationship with Him. You can learn to submit in a loving manner.
But, I Want Things My Way